Enbyphobia

Enbyphobia, or non-binary phobia, is the discrimination towards non-binary individuals and is often characterized as dehumanizing or shutting out non-binary people.

An example of enbyphobia could be having only male and female bathrooms, or having only two genders listed on a form.

Another example is using language that’s non-inclusive. Saying phrases like “ladies and gentlemen“ or “boys and girls” to refer to a group is enbyphobic because it excludes non-binary people and ignores the fact they exist.

"Two Genders"
The two genders "belief" is enbyphobic and is very controversial. It denies the existence of genderqueer genders as well as non-binary and non-binary genders.

A common misconception is that because there are two biological sexes, there can only be two genders. This is obviously incorrect as gender is a wide spectrum, and many other gender identities that don’t fall into the neat categories of ‘male’ and ’female’ and to deny that is to deny the fact that non-binary people exist. Saying that it is your “belief” that there are only two genders is enbyphobic and incorrect.

Often used in jokes and memes, this "two genders" concept is used as a punchline that makes fun of non-binary and other gender non-conforming people and can be hurtful to their communities.

Misgendering
Misgendering is the act of assuming, ignoring, or invalidating one's gender, and this is something that the non-binary and transgender communities know quite well. An example of misgendering can be assuming a feminine-looking person to be female, and then later refusing to call them by their preferred pronouns. Of course, assuming doesn't automatically make you enbyphobic, but it's good to ask for pronouns first. There's a big difference between making a simple assumption and repeatedly disregarding someone's preferred pronouns on purpose.

Misgendering a trans or non-binary person can trigger negative emotions and their gender dysphoria, and doing ir repeatedly is just being mean, so it's best to ask people for their preferred pronouns.

"Just Pick A Gender"
Another enbyphobic belief is that non-binary people are confused, looking for attention, transgender people in denial, or just want to be "special" or "unique" and get into the LGBT+ community (especially if they are cis and straight). This enbyphobic belief can be compared to Biphobia and ties into the next point: discourse.

(Please note: While some enbys also choose to identify as transgender, not all of them do - and it's harmful to say they can't pick a gender or are confused.)

Discourse
Even in the LGBT+ community, some people want to ban certain identities from it and claim that they do not belong in the community. This includes cisgender heteromantic asexuals, pansexuals, and lesser known gender and sexual/romantic identities - including non-binary people.

Internalized Enbyphobia
Internalized enbyphobia is enbyphobia against oneself - possibly because of bias, the way one was raised, or the opinions of people around them. Non-binary people with internalized enbyphobia refuse to identify as non-binary out of shame, fear, embarrassment, or the way they were raised, and will try to convince themselves that it is "wrong" to identify as such and will not accept their identity. By constantly drilling enbyphobia into their head, it usually makes things worse, and it can harm both themselves and non-binary people around them.

Other Examples of Enbyphobia & NB Exclusion In Daily Life

 * Two bathrooms: one for male, one for female


 * Male and female options for checklists, interviews, etc


 * Using non-inclusive language


 * Forcing gender roles on people and repeatedly telling them to act the way of their birth sex (ex: boys must be masculine and aloof, girls quiet and obedient)
 * Clothing stores separated between male and female


 * Forbidding non-binary youth from dressing in a way that makes them feel comfortable and instead making them dress the way that is expected of their birth sex